If you have learned anything in deen, its to use hikmah (wisdom). The prophet saw also said one who had been blessed with hikmah, had indeed been blessed alot (not verbatim). Its very interesting to note how people perceive hikmah.
One thing is for sure, there is no surefire formula - but the best advice i can give is to think before you speak, curb the enthusiasm. Like actually hold the conversation in your head a couple of times with different options. Not only does it help construct your response, but also kills your anxiety which may result in saying something wrong or in a wrong way.
Another thing is actually drawing from the Quran's advice on calling people to a common ground. So think about your audience, try to think like they do or of things you definitely agree on and then work in your advice there. For eg when explaining someone how they should avoid a life of credit because interest is haram - go for how damaging debt can be or is. Financial strain may be something that person is willing to listen about.
Thirdly have sabr (patience), float an idea you want executed and leave it. Dont push it. Dont justify it or get the other person to agree instantly.
Lastly and most importantly, make dua. I have seen things comes to fruition with dua so blatantly, i still havent gotten over it. Allah azza wajal is the All Mighty without whose will we cant take our next breath. So ask for His pleasure, make dua repetitively, untiringly and with utmost humility.
A side note -This is something that may hone your skills of using hikmah: Observe people and how they respond in certain situations. This will teach you alot about them and people in general. You will learn to gauge when you can and what you can get away with; without much friction.
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